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How to Tell Yourself the Truth

As a Christian, how can I develop a healthy self-image?

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THE PROBLEM:

Very few people have an accurate and healthy view of themselves.

THE SYMPTOMS:

When you receive a compliment what do you do?  Have you ever caught yourself thinking or saying something to cancel it out?

  • “You wouldn’t say that if you really knew me.”
  • “You just said that because you feel sorry for me.”
  • “Wait until you know me better.”
  • “My husband only tells me I’m beautiful to make me feel better.  I wish he’d just tell me the truth.”
  • “My wife says she’s proud of me but we both know better.”
  • “It really wasn’t me who did it.  It was the Lord.”

YOU MAY HAVE AN UNHEALTHY SELF-IMAGE IF…

  • You don’t have a sense of humor.
  • You avoid new ideas and experiences.
  • You project an attitude of rigidity.
  • You tend to lose it under stress.
  • You hate talking to people especially strangers.
  • You are uncomfortable giving and receiving compliments or affection.

THE CAUSES:

Your unhealthy self-image a result of TOXIC SELF-TALK.  “Self-talk” is the way you talk to yourself about yourself.  This internal almost unconscious conversation takes on different forms.  FOR EXAMPLE: one person may focus on what she thinks others are thinking about her while another might concentrate on “I am” statements.

Your experiences as a child, and even as an adult, shape your self-talk.  If your parents, teachers and friends said, “You’re worthless; you’re bad; you’ll never make it in life” then your adult self-talk tends to say, “I’m worthless; I’m bad; I’ll never make it.”

TOXIC SELF-TALK tears you down and negates all that God says about you.  In other words, you’ve been lying to yourself about yourself.

GOD PROVIDES RESOURCES:

Because of the privilege and authority God has given me, I give each of you this warning: Don’t think you are better than you really are.  Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves, measuring yourselves by the faith God has given us. (Romans 12:3)

Here’s the secret to having a healthy self-image:  TELL YOURSELF THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF.

Fill your mind with what God says about you.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. (Psalm 139:14)

The LORD said … “I have loved you with an everlasting love.  With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.” (Jeremiah 31:3)

We are God’s masterpiece, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. (Ephesians 2:10)

QUESTION OF THE DAY:

Will you tell yourself the truth today?

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